Our therapists believe in the need for healthy interdependence. We are created with a primal need to connect with close others and are healthier through this emotional contact. Distress in adult romantic relationships is often related to deeply rooted fears of losing these connections and when that need is threatened, we may find ourselves doing and saying things in ineffective attempts to get our partners to understand. This negative interaction loop leads to the frustration, anger, and numbing partners feel.
At Spectrum, we work with our couples to break these painful cycles. Forget about learning new skill sets in communication, tools to argue better, making grand romantic gestures, analyzing your early childhood, or experimenting with new sexual positions. This is much more than negotiating and making deals. Our focus is on creating and strengthening emotional bonds and helping couples engage in a very different way. There are key transformational moments in romantic love relationships and we help you identify and transform them, while working with you to repair what feels broken.
We utilize an approach called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
EFT has an astounding 70-75% success rate, and approximately 90% show significant improvements. These results have been shown to last, even in the face of significant stress. Even more astounding is when you consider that typical couples counseling has been shown to have success rates between 12-20%.
EFT has been validated by over 30 years of research, with studies continuing to show its success with distressed couples, including veterans and those with partners that suffer from depression, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorders, addictions, and chronic physical illness.
Please visit this link to learn more about EFT and the research behind it.